Wellness With Attitude

What is the difference between a counselor and a coach?

Life coaching is viewed as the clinical arm of the positive psychology movement.  It assumes clients are capable, resourceful and able to set their own agenda for the future.  Coaches help the client to identify their core values and strengths, which lay the foundation that will enable the client to set meaningful goals and take the necessary action to achieve them.  Usually the goals have to do with specific and measurable tasks like: preparing for transitions, starting a new business, time management, losing weight, or maximizing the aging experience.  The coach assumes the role of an equal partner, setting the bar slightly higher than the client would normally do for themselves.  Sessions are usually conducted over the phone, which is convenient and an efficient use of time.  In the event that a therapeutic issue arises, a reputable coach will refer the client to a therapist for treatment.   

The role of a psychotherapist takes a different path.  Here the client’s past is important to understand as it relates to their current situation.  The work may include identifying early experiences that negatively impact the present and resolving unwanted feelings and thoughts generated from those experiences.  Therapy follows the medical model of healing the pathology and includes an identifiable diagnosis.  The relationship between the therapist and client is important and is seen as a hierarchical one with the therapist as the expert.  The style is very nurturing, empathic and cathartic.  Progress can take a while, because the root of the problem may be deeply entwined or subconscious to the client.  At times therapy may feel vague and without direction, but beneficial insight and awareness can result.

Navigating the curves of life with purpose.

See for Yourself

 

What does a coach do that I cannot do myself?

Perhaps ask questions that you do not ask yourself, or ask the questions and dive more deeply into those answers.

 I am a bright, capable person. Why me, why now?

One reason might be because you want to have a collaborator that does not just gloss over a potential story that is not serving your needs. Perhaps because you have tried several actions and you keep winding up back at this same point. Perhaps you know you are worth more money, but it seems to elude you. Perhaps because you find yourself happy, but it has a shelf life, and you are not sure why that happens. As you can see, the reasons are varied, the timing is unique to you, as are the answers.

 Are you conscious of what you are pulling into or pushing out of your life?

Yes, we design our life, but we do not always do it intentionally. Sometime our subconscious plays a leading role. We might even have an insecurity that pretends it’s a star. There are times when a loss or failure shows up as the “bad” guy, who does bad things to us, that we most certainly do not deserve. 

Do you have a story that is NOT serving you in your wholeness of this life experience?

Have you ever thought, "Why am I so good at ------ but I cannot seem to get -----straight?!"

Are you working toward abundance, or are you working to avoid scarcity?

Maybe there are factors working in the economy, maybe there is more debt than you want.  How much reality do you want to govern your thoughts, feelings and emotions?  Yes, negative things happen, but we do have the ability to determine how they affect us, how they drive us, and how much we internalize. A coach can help make sure you know the answers, so you drive with a road map, and you celebrate along the route you have chosen.

 Are you outwardly looking like a success, but inside you feel like you are NOT enough, NOT a success, NOT free of debt, NOT emotionally fulfilled and joyful?

Working with a coach can help you discover why there are "NOT"s in your life. Working with a partner can transform your perception to see a TON, instead.  You have a TON of success, a TON of joy, a TON of attributes, a TON of money.

Are you feeling out of control, or do you feel empowered?

Are you crystal clear about your goals? Or are you focused instead on the resistance that prevents you from reaching your goals?

Maybe you know that you want to feel differently, focus on your “purpose” but you are not clear on your purpose because you have been busy making a living. Working with a coach can stretch your “imagination muscles” and with consistent effort they get stronger and your journey begins to manifest in accordance with your goal.

Have you taken all the tools you use in business and implemented them into your personal life? Your wellness? Your transformation goal?  Have you reached out for new resources, or have you remained closed, have you avoided the “shift”?

With a cooperative coach, you can bring your personal strengths to the surface and implement them. You will have an accountability person, a place to evaluate your work and effort, a place to be validated and encouraged.

 Are you resigned?  Are things just the way they are? Is there really only one perspective? Are you interested in doing the work and the self discovery to find a different perspective, to find potential, to widen the possibilities or range of perspectives?

We all use our own filters, our own messages. A coach can offer an alternative filter. A coach can offer you a new message about what you really deserve, which can change your set point of the infinite abundance that is there for you.

Balance is about making choices. Saying yes to some things, saying no to others. Balance is a fluid state because life itself is dynamic. Are you in enough pain to intentionally take the steps to discover a path to pleasure?

Has stress settled somewhere in your body?  Is it time to work it out? Is it time to love yourself through healing your body?

We hear more and more daily about what is healthy for us, and more and more we understand our emotional, mental state has impact on our body. Anger, guilt and stress are the ones we hear most about, disease does break down to DIS—EASE. Coaching can bring ease back into your life, because you will learn how to be more clear and specific with yourself, make better choices for you, celebrate and be grateful on a daily basis.

People sometimes look to friends or family to find new answers, often they find that the old stories or messages keep appearing. Perhaps you are sensing that a relationship with a collaborator, an alliance between two equals for the purpose of meeting your needs is here. Your job is not to know HOW things will get done. It is to TRUST yourself to take the first steps.

The primary building block to begin working with a coach is awareness that you can find the answers. You have the creativity and the resources within you. You are not broken, your choices are not all bad, and you do not need to be fixed. A coach asks the questions the open doors, to find your answers, not prepackaged answers that do not fit you. A coach will help you meet your Saboteur face to face, help face your purpose and vision and deal with what betrays you. A coach can bring you past the logic, allow you to follow your instincts and celebrate the steps.